Wednesday April 10th

Better late than never!

Welcome to the newsletter where we help you reach your FULL potential in mindset, leadership, and communication. Whether you are a friend, customer, or on a mission to grow - I am glad you are here.

Today’s Agenda is simple:

1. Welcome Kyle Rittenhouse to the Patriot Pay Team

2. SUPERCOMMUNICATOR (are you one?)

Let’s get it!

Patriot Pay
Welcome Kyle Rittenhouse

This week I’d like to welcome Kyle Rittenhouse to the Patriot Pay Ambassador Team.

Kyle is the American Icon of 2nd amendment rights. He single-handedly took the burden of preserving our constitutional rights to self defense.

It’s no surprise that Kyle would endorse a payment processing company that not only supports those rights, but donates a portion of proceeds back to organizations helping Americans fight for these rights.

Join us in the parallel economy and accept credit cards for your company with a processor with values.

Learn more about Patriot Pay

Communication
SUPERCOMMUNICATOR

I just started this book…mostly the cover caught my eye 🙂 

Discover how to authentically and effectively connect with others by recognizing three common types of conversations and then working together to ensure everyone feels listened to, understood, and achieves their desired outcomes.

🦎 Lesson 1: The root of all great communication is alignment with other human beings.

Effective communication requires recognizing what kind of conversation is occurring, and then matching each other. I call this being a chameleon communicator - observe, match, connect. Become the person you are talking with. It’s magic

🦜 Lesson 2: Most of our conversations fall into 1 of 3 important-to-recognize categories.

(I don’t know why I used a parrot emoji, but I kinda like it)

1. The “What’s this really about?” conversation, which is logical and analytical in nature and requires a decision-making mindset. This is about negotiating.

2. The “How do we feel?” conversation, which is dominated by our emotions, beliefs, and memories. It requires an emotional mindset. This is about vulnerability.

3. The “Who are we?” conversation, which touches on “our relationships, how we are seen by others and see ourselves, and our social identities.” This one asks us to be in a social mindset. This is about identity.

🏴‍☠️ Lesson 3: Use 4 rules to turn any discussion into “a learning conversation” and thus find alignment with others.

(I didn’t know there was a pirate emoji and now my life is changed forever 🙂 )

When you try to turn every conversation into a learning conversation, you’ll quickly get better at identifying types of discussions — and thus also at matching and connecting with other people.

1. Pay attention to what kind of conversation is happening.

2. Share your goals, and ask others for theirs.

3. Ask others about their feelings, and share your own.

4. Consider if identities might be important to this discussion.

TAKEAWAY: Buy the book. It is AWESOME. You’ll love it. That is all 🙂 

Thanks for letting me speak into your life, leadership, and growth.

Have a GREAT week!

Derek Matthews
Character Quest Co-Founder
Patriot Pay CEO